When I married my husband I knew there would be ups and downs we would go through but recently alot of it has been about him caring for me and the kids rather than the other way round. Neither of us are particularly fond of being reliant on anyone, and that includes each other. We have both had our own lives and been single for a long time before we married, and find it uncomfortable sometimes how interlinked our lives have become. We really need to be a team at the moment but sometimes it would be alot easier to be independent and do our own thing seperately. I think this is the same for all human beings otherwise we wouldn’t drag our kids to social settings and tell them to “share”!
I am lucky to work with a great team of people who make going into the office much more fun, and often help with the work pressures by sharing their advice, or time to support me, when they know I have alot going on at home, or can see I am against the clock. While it’s been hard to learn to delegate, it is also alot less stressful to know other people can support you because you have let them into the task or workload you are experiencing.
My husband has had a problem with his eye this week, which meant he couldn’t really see at all, and it has been wierd not having him there to help with everything, and horrible to see him in pain. I really appreciated what he does for us as a family this week, without him I couldn’t do my job for example.
As we were leaving the eye clinic, where the lovely doctor came up with a solution to his problem which has meant he can go back to normal alot quicker (A magic contact lense), the following passage came to mind from Corinthians, that we’ve been looking at church…
1 Corinthians v12-26
12 Just as a body, though one, has many parts, but all its many parts form one body, so it is with Christ. 13 For we were all baptized by[c] one Spirit so as to form one body—whether Jews or Gentiles, slave or free—and we were all given the one Spirit to drink. 14 Even so the body is not made up of one part but of many.
15 Now if the foot should say, “Because I am not a hand, I do not belong to the body,” it would not for that reason stop being part of the body. 16 And if the ear should say, “Because I am not an eye, I do not belong to the body,” it would not for that reason stop being part of the body. 17 If the whole body were an eye, where would the sense of hearing be? If the whole body were an ear, where would the sense of smell be? 18 But in fact God has placed the parts in the body, every one of them, just as he wanted them to be. 19 If they were all one part, where would the body be? 20 As it is, there are many parts, but one body.
21 The eye cannot say to the hand, “I don’t need you!” And the head cannot say to the feet, “I don’t need you!” 22 On the contrary, those parts of the body that seem to be weaker are indispensable, 23 and the parts that we think are less honorable we treat with special honor. And the parts that are unpresentable are treated with special modesty, 24 while our presentable parts need no special treatment. But God has put the body together, giving greater honor to the parts that lacked it, 25 so that there should be no division in the body, but that its parts should have equal concern for each other. 26 If one part suffers, every part suffers with it; if one part is honored, every part rejoices with it.